Good children listen to his parents and teachers, follow the rules, and behave well. They learn to be good slaves. Not master of their own.
Adults loves good boys. They don’t scream, they don’t disrupt. They are easy on parents and teachers. But let’s ask: why do good boys want to be “good” boys? To avoid punishment? To please the teachers? For fear of losing the affection of their parents?
Reward and punishment systems, authoritative suppressions, and “I would be sad if you don’t behave” statements are typical manipulative measures used by adults. But what are their consequences? The child will only learn to live up to others’ expectations and standards, and under the fear of failure, poverty, and not loved. He is afraid of expressing himself and going his own way. Gradually he’ll forget what he really wants, and who he is. A life of frustrations. Alternatively, he’ll become rebellious to express his frustrations, powerlessness, and hunger for love.
The healthy great boy, may disregard rules and regulations, but naturally respect all people, because he has enough self-respect and self-love. He feels worthy, he doesn’t need external approval. He is inner-driven, passionate about life. He has his own dreams and dare to manifest his dreams.